It’s All About the Head Game

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tomatoheart If you’ve been reading along with my posts (which I hope you have), you may remember in my Wednesday’s post, I was a little stressed out last week.  It all started when we got a notice under our door from the building maintenance crew.  Our apartment management had decided to do its bi-yearly, mandatory pest management cleaning.  Whoopy!  It wouldn’t have been so bad, if I didn’t have to take EVERYTHING out of my kitchen and bathroom cabinets, clean, and then put everything back together again.  You know how much stuff is in my kitchen, guys?  Lets just say, I’d give Williams-Sonoma a run for their money!

Don’t get me wrong though, I was thrilled our building cares about the condition of the apartment.  But preparing for the cleaning was a lot of extra work and extra time for me (I don’t do well with a chaotic mess). PLUS I spent most nights dreaming of mutant mice and bugs invading our apartment in their quest to escape “pest management.”  Yuck.  I was exhausted, fatigued, and very irritable.  I didn’t work out, I obviously didn’t eat all that healthy, and emotionally I was fried.  So this whole ordeal really threw me out of my “head game” (hence the giant bag of Doritos that I assisted in demolishing).

Now, my head game is something I really value (my mom actually came up with this term).  It’s my mental state of motivation, will power and determination to be healthy and continue a healthy lifestyle.  Without a good “head game” goals I’ve set won’t happen, Doritos and Ben & Jerry’s enter the picture, and I usually feel very off balance.  I think everyone has a “head game” – you just may call it something else.  But its basically your inner drive to continue down the path to achieving your goals.

I figured that if I got…side tracked…from my “head game,” maybe other people do too.  So I came up with a list of 7 tips I have used to get myself back in the “head game.”  Hopefully they’ll work for you too!

Getting Back the Head Game – Tips and Tricks:

  1. Have a heart to heart – with yourself.  I know when I’ve lost my head game, I’ve also lost my connection with myself.  So I’ve gotten to the point where I stand in the bathroom (or other room with a mirror) and talk it out…with myself.  Tell yourself it’s time to get back on track.  You deserve this and you want to achieve your goals.  Look at yourself, stare into your eyes and tell yourself what you want to do!  And put some umph into it!
  2. Stay out of the kitchen.  This might not apply to everyone, but when I’m stressed I tend to hang around the kitchen.  And no, I’m not cleaning it!  If you’re the same way, get out…now.  There are times when I’m in bed at 8…just so I’m not in the kitchen where my “bad half” would rather be.  Who cares if my husband makes fun of me?  I rather be in bed relaxing with a good book than stuffing Doritos in my mouth.
  3. Start the day with a good breakfast.  This might seem obvious, but if I skip breakfast in attempt to “compensate” for those late night Doritos, I’ll just starve and hunger takes over and I binge at lunch.  Then that horrible cycle starts all over again.  So eat breakfast (and lunch and dinner) and make sure it’s something you like and that’s healthy.
  4. Breathe.  I know… you do it all the time.  But have you ever been angry, sad or stressed and someone tells you to take a deep breath?  Doesn’t that feel good?  Sometimes I really forget to take long, deep breaths when I’m emotional.  I don’t even realize it.  But it happens.  So take a minute and pause and breathe in nice and deep…a few times.  Sometimes I like to start my day like this – deep breaths and I tell myself it’s going to be a great day.
  5. Eat what you want.  Yes really… eat what you want.  In moderation that is.  Sometimes I just don’t want to be perfectly healthy.  I don’t want 5-9 servings of veggies or 2 pieces of fruit.  So what?  I’m not gonna die from a missed veggie or two.  The constant self-denial of favorite foods can end up back-firing – especially when you’re already down.  I’ll make something I’m in the mood for, stick to the serving size, and really enjoy a comforting meal.
  6. Do a fun physical activity.  Sometimes I let myself think that the only type of exercise that “counts” is when you’re breathing hard, sweaty and ready to pass out.  Not true.  When I’m really stressed out, I generally don’t feel like going for a 5 mile run.  But I will like going for a leisurely walk with my dog.  So I do that instead.  Pick an activity you actually want to do – I promise, it really does help.
  7. Lastly, forgive yourself.  This is probably the hardest thing to do.  It’s so much easier to bash yourself for over eating or not working out.  But really guys…what good does that do?  Nothing and it’s mean.  So realize that you’re human, you make mistakes and ITS OK.  So forgive, learn from it and move on.  Tomorrow’s a whole new day.

I hope some of these tips and tricks can help you out if you need a quick boost of motivation.  Share any tips and tricks you have used to get yourself back on track!  I love hearing different ideas from my readers, so please share!


  1. Debbie Wilemon

    January 25, 2013 at 10:18 am

    great job. I really liked this one.

    • mewinebrenner

      January 25, 2013 at 10:19 am

      I’m glad! You have any tips to share?

  2. carol austin

    January 25, 2013 at 10:50 am

    For me, the best way to take a deep breath, or several calming breaths, is to sing to myself. Peaceful songs, quiet hymns—anything with slow regular breathing and, if there are words, uplifting words—these work better than “meditation” for me, because I’m so ADD that my mind wanders everywhere if I don’t focus, and the only way I can focus on one thing at a time is to concentrate on one note after another. If I can find a spot where the acoustics are good—shower, tub, indoor pool?—all the better, because at 68, I don’t sound like I used to—but most of us can find something we can sing! I’ve found that even people who can’t carry a tune can find one note, get comfortable with it, try one note above and one note below till you’re comfortable with them, and pretty soon there’s a melody–just for yourself!

    • mewinebrenner

      January 25, 2013 at 12:26 pm

      I agree – breathing deep really helps!

  3. Melanie @ Nutritious Eats

    January 25, 2013 at 6:52 pm

    What a pain. I have had to do that before. It is so not fun. I love all these tips. I also turn to my trusty planner to get organized. Seeing things written on paper really helps me focus and get motivated.

    • mewinebrenner

      January 26, 2013 at 12:45 pm

      Yea – I’m a fan of writing a calendar out too – in fact I have one taped up in the bathroom!

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